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4 Things I want my daughter to know

My daughter Katarina is 1.5 years old. And it recently dawned on me how fast time is flying. I know everybody says time flies but there are certain moments in your life where you briefly grasp the full notion of just how fast it’s moving. In a matter of months, this little thing that couldn’t initially hold up her own head is now dictating what she will or will not eat and what she will or will not wear! And with a sassy attitude I might add… umm what and when did this happen?!Victoria Latu and daughter

This got me thinking about what sort of values and ideas I could try to instil in my growing daughter that could help her navigate this ever confusing and volatile world of ours. Basically, the things that I have learned along the way that if I had realised sooner, would have made it an easier, less bumpy ride.Victoria Latu wearing seed heritage

Here are some things I want my daughter to know…

The most important relationship you will have in life; is the relationship you have with yourself. DVF (Diane Von Fustenburg) makes this statement in most of her interviews and there is nothing more true. Because everywhere you go there you are. You have to be kind to yourself. You can’t lie to yourself. You’ve got to have your own back. Yes, it’s great to have friends and loving boyfriends blah blah. But, the relationship you have with yourself will dictate how all the others relate to and treat you. So work on that first.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that people won’t feel insecure around you. If you get a sense that this might be happening to you, please fight the urge to be smaller to fit it in. Fitting in isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. You don’t make a difference or change the world by being more of the same. And it goes back to the relationship with yourself thing. If you think people are insecure around you or you threaten their sense of self. That is not your tribe. Your job is not to try and become smaller but to go out there and find your tribe.Victoria Latu and daughter

Be grateful and appreciate things. Gratitude is a big big thing, for Grace comes in through the crack that gratitude creates. There is always something to be thankful and grateful for. Always … if you woke up and are comfortably breathing that is reason number one. But seriously, if you learn to appreciate and be sincerely grateful for the smallest things in your life. You will be amazed at the quality of life you could be graced with.

Your mama loves you and loves you hard. NOTHING can ever change that. Its unconditional. You might not always feel that and we might not always get along. But when all is said and done. You can always and will always have me. Know that.

I have so many more things that I would love to teach and instil in her but just think this might be a good place to start. As always, I would love to hear from my readers and what you all deem important. Let’start a conversation, please leave a comment below.

Till next time we talk shop,

x


Also published on Medium.

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6 Comments

  • Reply
    Kwamboka
    January 16, 2018 at 4:40 am

    I found the second struck me the hardest because I have found myself toning down here and there to fit it or not intimidate others and one day it hit me that I was no longer my original self. So fighting to get back to the authentic me! Loved this post!

    • Reply
      Victoria
      January 23, 2018 at 5:19 am

      I had that growing up too! Constantly trying to tone things about me down, just saw that people around me felt more comfortable with themselves. Took me some time to understand why 🙂
      so good hearing from you xx

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    Amy
    January 16, 2018 at 4:44 am

    Beautiful photos Victoria and I also can’t believe how fast the babies have grown!

    • Reply
      Victoria
      January 23, 2018 at 5:17 am

      Tell me about it! So fast.. almost makes me sad

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    Tatiana olabountou
    January 23, 2018 at 11:06 am

    Thank you Victoria for nice writing 😍We love your Talkink shop !!❤️💕

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    Shakiru olabuntu
    January 24, 2018 at 8:07 am

    Good lessons to make LIFE TIME IMPRESSIONS, from the first Teacher of life, good morals behoves good orientations. Shakiru Olabuntu.

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